If you are doing online dating, then you will eventually get to the point where you will need to make actual contact. Scary, right? I know. Sometimes it’s just easier to keep texting. But if you do that, you’ll never hear the intonations of that person’s voice, or see if you even click with step […]
Author Archives: Lori Mendelsohn
Dealing with loneliness around the holidays
As a professional matchmaker, I hear many stories of loneliness and despair, but it seems amplified around the holidays. These singles want to meet someone and they want to meet someone fast. They are tired of living their lives alone and being “singled” out. They are tired of being the third wheel when they used […]
Dating for the Newly Divorced
In my meetings with potential candidates and clients as a professional matchmaker in Milwaukee, I often come across people who have literally just signed their divorce documents and feel they are ready to start dating. While I admire their gumption, I always advise against jumping in right away. You have so many feelings to process. […]
Feminine and Masculine Energy at Work
As a professional matchmaker, I hear a lot of stories about how people never follow up, how they don’t call after spending time online, and how they eventually evaporate. Let’s face some facts. Online dating is a numbers game. As you are getting a lot of people looking at your profile, the same holds true […]
Why you should ask a single person to your home for the Holidays
Many single people dread the holiday season. Why? It’s supposed to be the most joyful time of the year! For many of us, it’s truly the most dreadful time of the year unless you have an active support system, family and friends to help get you through it. I get it, it’s incomprehensible that you […]
How does a Matchmaker Work?
When people hear that I’m a professional matchmaker they are always amazed at finding out HOW I got started. I mean, many of us have played Cupid at least one time in our lives, right? But how did that work out? Is the couple living their “happily ever after” with your introduction? I’m happy to […]
In our search for love, have we become numb?
I’m a professional Matchmaker, and in my day to day work, I meet a lot of people looking for that “elusive” love. In my discussions, I find a number of things blazingly similar. People are lonely, people want to connect, and people worry that they won’t find someone. This ranges across all channels-young, old and […]
How are you communicating with your partner?
Being a professional Matchmaker, I get to hear a lot of stories and sadly, everyone has weathered these “storms.” The more I hear, the more I realize that we are so much more the same than we are different. One of my male friends was sharing a story about a woman who he recently met. […]
Where do you meet other singles?
As a professional matchmaker in the Milwaukee and Racine area, I get asked this question all the time. At a recent seminar teaching men how to date, we had a very open forum with a Q and A portion, and the same question kept coming up-where do I meet people if I’m not looking online? […]
When do you become exclusive?
As a professional matchmaker in the Milwaukee area, I get this question all the time. You’ve been dating a while, 3-6 months, or perhaps even less. You feel that you should perhaps become exclusive, or that you already are. You don’t want to waste anyone’s time, especially your own, and you want to become exclusive. […]
Are YOU Victim Stancing?
We have all met them. The world is their enemy-no one understands them and everyone has done them wrong. Dr. Paula Durlofsky states: “The victim stance is a powerful one—the victim believes he or she is always morally right, is not responsible or accountable for their actions, and is entitled to sympathy from others. Individuals […]
When do we stop swiping and start getting serious?
I’m on Match.com. I’m also on Bumble. Even though I am out and about all the time, and not a shrinking violet when it comes to initiating conversations, I also, like the rest of us, am challenged finding someone to go out. Being on an online platform and an app helps me get one step […]
Forgetting Our Value
I admittedly spend a lot of time online, in chat groups for dating, looking online for connections for my clients, and searching for the elusive unicorn in a sea of fish-catching bachelors. Apparently the fishing hobby isn’t limited to just men; there are plenty of fishing gals online as well. Am I missing out by […]
Is it impossible to find love later in life?
I meet a lot of people in my line of work, and I talk to many who are already married, divorced, or are in unhappy relationships. I love to hear people’s stories because it cements my belief that we are all more similar than dissimilar. Those who are in less than fulfilling relationships think the […]
Have we gotten too picky?
This blog is for those of you who are using dating apps to find love. And those who aren’t, let me share some stories. This past week, I thought I would join another online app to see some new people come through my matches. I have been on Bumble for about a year, and in […]